Ex-Church of Christ Support Board

My first serious girlfriend in high school had a kid and was recently divorced. Her husband had cheated on her but she also had sex before the divorce was final so it was deemed that she didn't have scriptural grounds for divorce. I was pressured into breaking up with her. The sad thing was we were ...

I remember asking questions and never being satisfied with the answers. Oddly, I just incorporated the poor responses to my questions in my beliefs. Cognitive dissonance comes to mind as an explanation. Holding two contradictory concepts as truth in your mind at the same time. The really weird thing...

When you think of it we all disfellowshipped the Church of Christ. :lol: My wife and I were disfellowshipped by a small legalistic congregation when we chose to go to a nearby bigger "liberal" congregation. They cited links to "liberal" coc affiliated universities on the second ...

Looking back I can see clearly that the control comes from instilling fear and guilt. At the time, growing up in the coc, I never saw it that way. I didn't think I was being controlled. I didn't think an unrational fear of hell was keeping me from questioning the church. I didn't think shame was kee...