Were you chastised for marrying outside the church?

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candace
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Re: Were you chastised for marrying outside the church?

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I have never been married, so I got lucky and never got the pressure to convert a spouse.
Melanie
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Re: Were you chastised for marrying outside the church?

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My daughter announced her engagement to the family at Thanksgiving dinner this week. My sister-in-law's first and only question was "Has he been baptized or does he just attend church with her because they are dating?" This is the same sister-in-law who asked me if there was a strong church nearby when my husband and I told her we had bought the property we want to retire to someday. By the way, I answered the question with, "He's a Christian; do you want to wash or dry?"
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Re: Were you chastised for marrying outside the church?

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Melanie wrote:My daughter announced her engagement to the family at Thanksgiving dinner this week. My sister-in-law's first and only question was "Has he been baptized or does he just attend church with her because they are dating?" This is the same sister-in-law who asked me if there was a strong church nearby when my husband and I told her we had bought the property we want to retire to someday. By the way, I answered the question with, "He's a Christian; do you want to wash or dry?"
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Re: Were you chastised for marrying outside the church?

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My first serious girlfriend in high school had a kid and was recently divorced. Her husband had cheated on her but she also had sex before the divorce was final so it was deemed that she didn't have scriptural grounds for divorce. I was pressured into breaking up with her.

The sad thing was we were really in love. I was the first guy she dated that didn't abuse her. I was a "good influence" on her as well. But because I broke up with her she completely rejected religion after that.

I still feel horrible for putting her through all that.
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